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What Would Wonder Woman Wear?

April 14th, 2015

A year and a half ago I lost 18 pounds.  In some circumstances this would be an exciting thing, but in my case it was not.  I’m of the school that women (people?) fall into two basic categories:  those who eat their emotions and those who starve them away.  I fall into the latter category.

The warmer months of 2013 were, for me, the icing on a shit cake that was 5+ years in the baking.  As I became more and more anxious and stressed, my ability to eat became blocked by a giant rock of depression firmly lodged in my throat.  Hence my significant weight loss.  There was nothing that felt worse than trying to gag down a meal, as each bite seemed laced with acrimony and despair.

Downton Table Setting

What I found interesting in all this skeletal milieu was that while my self esteem was eroding at a rapid pace, my body confidence was growing exponentially.  I had 99 problems but looking good in my clothes wasn’t one of them!  Perhaps that’s not entirely true – my now partner, on our second date, asked me if I had an eating disorder – probably not an indicator of a healthy body image, but suffice it to say that I felt bold and confident in my sartorial choices during that emotionally complex time.


Over a year has passed, and I have gained back most of the weight that slipped away that season.  People tell me that I look healthy and vibrant – so much better – they say, than when I was rocking a heroin chic.  And I do feel better.  I have ameliorated many of the demons that took up residence in my throat and my psyche.  I have eradicated habits and people that were toxic to my being.  I am in a healthy and committed relationship.  So why then, am I so aware of the pounds that have returned?  And why do they pester me so much?  …This dress looked better 10 pounds ago….these pants hung better when there was a bit of space between my skin and the inseam…why is this skirt so snug on my waist today…?  How is it that I have 50 years of life experience and I’m bothered by thoughts that are not only superficial and superfluous but are more typical of the average teenage girl?


I find it fascinating that as I get my shit together and make decisions – both personal and professional – that are mature and solid and lay the foundation for the next half century, there is a part of my mind that wants to go back to the feeling of being thin and ethereal and invisible.  There was a strange power associated with a waif like build…I could float among the spirits, silent and unnoticed, encountering ghosts of the past and dealing with them on equal physical terms.  Every morning my closet would welcome me with open arms.  Each outfit was selected based on its super-power capabilities, not because it was flattering, or hid pre-menstrual bloat, or made my hips look slimmer or rounder or longer.  I felt strangely confident and superior rattling around in my loose fitting clothes.

Azzadine Green

Perhaps it was a case of the clothes wearing me, and the confidence I felt was a veiled attempt to create an illusion of strength and empowerment at a time when I felt most vulnerable and truly invisible.  I am no longer invisible, and I have not only the personal and professional relationships to prove it, but a few extra pounds to remind me on a daily basis.  I like feeling solid and indestructible.  I like knowing that I can withstand the storms that life will blow my way.


But I do miss the ability to blindly reach into my closet and know that whatever outfit I extract will slide on without a glance, or a tug, or a fit adjustment of some sort…




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One Comment »

  • Thursday, April 23, 2015 at 12:54 pm
    Lee Brooks said:

    I so relate to the connection correlation between my current size and my emotions. I am in the opposite camp – I lose weight when my life is emotionally and professionally peaceful, and vice versa. Thanks for sharing – you are beautiful now and forever.

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